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76% of Adults Have Some Level Of Social Anxiety Because Of This
Thursday, March 23, 2017
Does your job require you to interact effectively with people who you don't know? Does your career success depend on your ability to forge relationships with strangers?
How do you engage with people on a day to day basis? Are you heads down, texting your best friend, while walking down the hallway at work? Are you tracking your favorite sporting event on your device while engaging in a conversation at a business event? Are you viewing Facebook posts while standing in line at the bar at a networking function?
You might be falling prey to early imprinting. And you may be limiting your opportunity for success.
Don't talk to strangers! This phrase is a common refrain parents and teachers preach to children. Deeply engrained and imprinted, it becomes our behavior. The result - it helps keep children safe from predators seeking to harm them by offering candy, pretending to locate a lost pet, or showing false kindness.
As we mature into adulthood the part of our brain responsible for judgment also matures. We gain the capability to discern which strangers to avoid and which ones we should get to know.
Or do we?
The imprinting in early childhood is so deep that we tend to carry it throughout our lifetimes. As a result, 76% of adults suffer from some level of social anxiety. This is the stress that prevents us from forging new relationships with strangers who might be valuable additions to our professional networks and social circles.
To be successful, we must re imprint ourselves... and connect!
Because we have been taught to stay away from strangers, it's not easy, it is work. At the center of the word networking is the word "work." It is not enough to merely want a healthy, helpful network. It involves work.
Every client, colleague, manager, community member and potential interaction creates our opportunity to have a strong network. The more widespread are connections are, the stronger our network becomes. The only thing getting in our way is ourselves, and left over imprinting from childhood about the danger of talking to strangers.
Speech has allowed the communication of ideas, enabling human beings to work together to build the impossible. Mankind's greatest achievements have come about by talking, and its greatest failures by not talking. It doesn't have to be like this. Our greatest hopes could become reality in the future. With the technology at our disposal, the possibilities are unbounded. All we need to do is make sure we keep talking.
- Stephen Hawking
We are most comfortable when we spend time with people we know and like. We learn the most when we leave our comfort zone and talk to people we don't know.
We must step out of our comfort zone and take the risk to talk to people we don't regularly interact with. We may be surprised at the creative ideas, innovations and opportunities we uncover.
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